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They say things come in 3’s

to outsourcing or to not emails

It true what they say, things come in set of three as I sit here in a blobbing mess. As with the previous post 2 Deaths, Playboy and a tool box 2 close friends lost loved one. But this time it was my turn to loose someone so special, so close to my heart – it hard to even breath.  Sitting with him for 3 days and trying not to fall asleep so that I could hold him when he went. He fraught hard but finally lost his battle and yesterday we laid him to rest.

Why am I telling this.

My emails are my weakest link and as you can understand they have suffered attention over the last month.  I have just concentrated on getting the orders out and custom design done through this heartbreaking and soul searching time.

I know that I will be opening up some very angry emails and yes I deserve the anger. In today’s world we are use to everything being automated, instant but not personal. Business does not have room for personal shit – excuse the french.

So my question to you is –  to outsource or  to not.

To me. The journey into chastity is a personal one. Everyone’s journey is private and different. By answering your emails I am able to help with your journey and hope to give the best possible answer to your questions. But this comes at a cost like any relationship. There are ups and downs. Exciting news and developments and on the flip side their are sad times and hurdles. Than sometimes I will be there instantly and other times I will be torn away due to family commitments, sickness and if I am lucky a holiday or two.

Custom Chastity is not just a business its a lifestyle and its about helping you build better relationships both sexually and non sexually with your partners. Its having someone safe to talk to when you have questions on chastity. For some of you it has even be about building friendships to me which I have appreciated so much as its not that I can walk down the local business group and say what type of business I’m in.

But I understand that this level of personal touch may not be what people want.

So I ask you to take a short survey – 2 questions – to help me know what you want. It is all anonymous

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FPH32SR

Thank You for your time and help in growing Custom Chastity.

Cheers

Lady Fox

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2 Deaths, Playboy and a tool box.

vintage toolbox

They say that the only thing you can count on in life is Death and Taxes.

Well July started off so wonderful with sun and champagne on the 4th July weekend. We have been testing our new products and developing others but this was the only highlight for July. Returning home I received the news that one of my friends mum had passed away. She had been sick for many years so it was a shock but had been expected. Then there was the horrible news of that my best friends Dad suddenly died.

When someone dies suddenly and you walk into their home it is like a time capsule. There is their dirty washing in the washing basket, the last cup they used in the sink and unmade bed. Through the tears, anger and redtape that needs to be done when someone dies we did find some things to laugh at. When we started tiding up his shed we found his Playboy Magazine collection – well read. But there was also a tool box full of leather, latex and other fetish items.  He would have been mortified if he know we had found them. My best friend sat in the shed tears rolling down her face and belly laugh at the thought of her dad being sexually active and kinky. Many digs, jokes and references to 50 shades of Grey as she came to terms with her fathers activities.

What would my children and friend think if they found my toys and then found out about my business and Lady Fox identity? What would you do if your sexual self was outed? I think it is this very question that stops many people from exploring their sexual desires and needs. Last word and say goodby to July – live life, enjoy your sexual side fully. Remember don’t worry about what other think – it is your life – live it fully.

 

 

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The Gap – Go Big or Go Small?

The Gap – Go Big or Go Small?

Do you wonder what gap size you should have? Are you wondering if you go smaller will it stop the escape artist? If you are new to chastity and do not know your preferred gap size then this blog is for you.

Sizing yourself for comfort, especially for long term wear, is important and may take trial and error but by understanding the gap size and its reason you will help you make a wiser choose. Here are some tips to help you pick the correct gap size for your chastity device.

Unfortunately, there is no way of measuring yourself to determine the gap size. However we find that most customers choose the 10mm (7/16′) and find it perfect for them. The 7mm (9/32′)′ gap is intended for when you have a very large difference between cage and base ring diameters, e.g., Regular Cage and 60mm base ring. The 13mm (1/2″) is for when the cage and base ring diameter are very close together e.g. 40mm ring and a Grande Cage. If slippage – naturally slipping out during normal daily activity – is a problem, rather than a tighter gap, we recommend our double base ring – or if you are in a metal cage and suffering from the weight pulling you cage down then change your cage to a lighter device like our surgical nylon ones. One user does naked star jumps in his.

If your chastity device is just a sex toy only used for a couple of hours and can be removed or adjusted immediately if there is discomfort, then if in any doubt pick a 10mm gap and enjoy your play. For the serious wearers where you will be locked up and not given the key for days or weeks then it is important to focus on comfort outside the play zone.

Some men start out obsessed with finding the most inescapable device but this is counter-productive in a long term chastity lifestyle. It is true that the smaller the gap between cage and main ring, the more difficult it becomes to slip the penis and testicles out. However, the gap is to allow for good blood flow and so prevent damage! It also determines comfort and practicality; you need to have enough room for your testicles to swing and move with your body during normal activity which includes work, exercise, sitting, squatting and bending, without them escaping or getting pinched. It is okay to be awakened by your penis struggling inside the cage (a nice reminder of your lifestyle choose) but you should never be in major pain as this is you body telling you that you causing damage down there.

So, going for a too-tight base ring in the hope of more security is a mistake. Anyway, if your cannot be trusted then you need to question why you want to be in chastity. Is long-term chastity really your scene? If it is then maybe you need a piercing and a PA device Otherwise, a comfortable cage is one you can wear long term without any excuse for early removal. (One user said it was like standing on the edge of a cliff…)

Take the time to measure yourself correct as per our Guide and if you are still unsure before purchasing your cage then try our Lock On Cock Ring – soon to be released

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Stop Production and I Quit!

i quit my day job for Custom Chastity and You

No I have not quit Custom Chastity.  After been sick with a chest infection for the last 10 days it forced me to rest and re-view my priority.  During this time I question why I had got so sick. Other than working a 40hour week, looking after the family and making 6 hour round trip to the hospital at least 3 times a week for the last 7 months plus tying to build Custom Chastity something had to give. And the weakest link was Me and my lungs.

Life is short and some times you need to take a leap of faith. I am passionate about Male Chastity and Custom Chastity. My boss is not happy but I quit my day job and now it is full commitment to Custom Chastity. I have so many things that I want to add and develop for Custom Chastity plus I want to write blogs, answer more questions and help men and their key holders in the journey of male chastity.

Wish me Luck

Cheers Lady Fox