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2 Deaths, Playboy and a tool box.

vintage toolbox

They say that the only thing you can count on in life is Death and Taxes.

Well July started off so wonderful with sun and champagne on the 4th July weekend. We have been testing our new products and developing others but this was the only highlight for July. Returning home I received the news that one of my friends mum had passed away. She had been sick for many years so it was a shock but had been expected. Then there was the horrible news of that my best friends Dad suddenly died.

When someone dies suddenly and you walk into their home it is like a time capsule. There is their dirty washing in the washing basket, the last cup they used in the sink and unmade bed. Through the tears, anger and redtape that needs to be done when someone dies we did find some things to laugh at. When we started tiding up his shed we found his Playboy Magazine collection – well read. But there was also a tool box full of leather, latex and other fetish items.  He would have been mortified if he know we had found them. My best friend sat in the shed tears rolling down her face and belly laugh at the thought of her dad being sexually active and kinky. Many digs, jokes and references to 50 shades of Grey as she came to terms with her fathers activities.

What would my children and friend think if they found my toys and then found out about my business and Lady Fox identity? What would you do if your sexual self was outed? I think it is this very question that stops many people from exploring their sexual desires and needs. Last word and say goodby to July – live life, enjoy your sexual side fully. Remember don’t worry about what other think – it is your life – live it fully.

 

 

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The Gap – Go Big or Go Small?

The Gap – Go Big or Go Small?

Do you wonder what gap size you should have? Are you wondering if you go smaller will it stop the escape artist? If you are new to chastity and do not know your preferred gap size then this blog is for you.

Sizing yourself for comfort, especially for long term wear, is important and may take trial and error but by understanding the gap size and its reason you will help you make a wiser choose. Here are some tips to help you pick the correct gap size for your chastity device.

Unfortunately, there is no way of measuring yourself to determine the gap size. However we find that most customers choose the 10mm (7/16′) and find it perfect for them. The 7mm (9/32′)′ gap is intended for when you have a very large difference between cage and base ring diameters, e.g., Regular Cage and 60mm base ring. The 13mm (1/2″) is for when the cage and base ring diameter are very close together e.g. 40mm ring and a Grande Cage. If slippage – naturally slipping out during normal daily activity – is a problem, rather than a tighter gap, we recommend our double base ring – or if you are in a metal cage and suffering from the weight pulling you cage down then change your cage to a lighter device like our surgical nylon ones. One user does naked star jumps in his.

If your chastity device is just a sex toy only used for a couple of hours and can be removed or adjusted immediately if there is discomfort, then if in any doubt pick a 10mm gap and enjoy your play. For the serious wearers where you will be locked up and not given the key for days or weeks then it is important to focus on comfort outside the play zone.

Some men start out obsessed with finding the most inescapable device but this is counter-productive in a long term chastity lifestyle. It is true that the smaller the gap between cage and main ring, the more difficult it becomes to slip the penis and testicles out. However, the gap is to allow for good blood flow and so prevent damage! It also determines comfort and practicality; you need to have enough room for your testicles to swing and move with your body during normal activity which includes work, exercise, sitting, squatting and bending, without them escaping or getting pinched. It is okay to be awakened by your penis struggling inside the cage (a nice reminder of your lifestyle choose) but you should never be in major pain as this is you body telling you that you causing damage down there.

So, going for a too-tight base ring in the hope of more security is a mistake. Anyway, if your cannot be trusted then you need to question why you want to be in chastity. Is long-term chastity really your scene? If it is then maybe you need a piercing and a PA device Otherwise, a comfortable cage is one you can wear long term without any excuse for early removal. (One user said it was like standing on the edge of a cliff…)

Take the time to measure yourself correct as per our Guide and if you are still unsure before purchasing your cage then try our Lock On Cock Ring – soon to be released

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How did Lady Fox get caught up in Male Chastity?

Lady Fox with The Fox

My husband and I were a “normal” married couple. We love each other but there was the normal killers – kids, work etc etc – others.

My husband came home and asked if he could be put into full time chastity. He had played with chastity devices before and it did nothing for me? The whole idea did not excite me at all. What was in it for me.

No sex for me???? but at least I know he was not cheating on me!!!

I was tired and just thought this was just another out there idea from my husband. – What ever!

Little did I know this was going to be the best journey ever to happen for me and my husband.

I would class myself as Vanilla in the world of sexual fetish. Some sex in public places, some little soft bondage but nothing to write to playboy about. Lets face it I have not even had a one night stand. EVER. So being thrown into chastity and orgasm denial for him only. (I did like that idea) it was a steep learning curve.

Thanks to a very patient husband he kept sending me information on the subject of Male Chastity and many articles on having a contract between the two parties. O MY GOD the contract we develop and sign was so pointed and littered with our insecurities and fears but that is exactly where we were at the time. If I was to write the contract today it would be so different.

Chastity Contract between THE FOX and LADY FOX –

THE FOX IS LOCK UNLESS LADY FOX SAID DIFFERENTLY

Signed by  Lady Fox and  The Fox

 

Simple and to the point but there was no way I would have signed the above at the beginning. I had so many questions and want to protect myself and my children from another crazy idea my husband had. I promise that one day I will go into detail about having a contract and our contract but in this blog I want to talk general about my wonderful journey into becoming a key holder.

After the initial shock, then came the benefits and growth. The first benefit was waking up in the morning without the dread poke in the back by his morning glory. I was waking up to cuddles and a cup of tea and a happy husband. The next benefit was that we started to flirt again. Sexual banter and sexual tension was building. The amazing next benefit was the undivided attention and

Amazing Orgasm.

His attention to detail and ultimate need to ensure that I was full satisfied was fantastic.  Not that that I ever complained on what I had before but it is SO MUCH BETTER NOW.

As I become more comfortable blogging I will continue to tell you our story from a Key-holders perspective and answer any questions that you may have in your male chastity play and lifestyle.

Till Next Time

Cheers

The Lady Fox.